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Jamey Rodemyer, 14, Committed Suicide in Response to Incessant Tormentors

Jamey had been bullied for years in school and online for not only his sexual orientation but also his weight and hateful speech of all kinds was sent his way. In May he came out to his friends as bisexual, and even made his own “It Gets Better” video to spread the message of hope he desperately wanted to believe in himself. But it seems that the hateful words only increased to an unbearable point, and feeling he had no one to turn to, on Sunday September 18th, only days before the anniversary of Tyler Clementi’s death last year, Jamey killed himself outside his home in Williamsville, NY.
You might have heard the news that Jamey was a huge Lady Gaga fan, even claiming that she was “the reason why I am alive.” The news of his death has left Gaga and people across the world both saddened and angry. Gaga is now pushing for President Obama to “make bullying illegal”, and the Paws Up Forever Project is circulating on YouTube to honor Jamey by discussing the harsh reality of suicide and the horrible bullying that has lead to so many lately.

So what can you do? Keep reaching out to the quiet kid in your class or dorm. Keep telling the ones you love that you are there for them and that they are amazing and beautiful. It might seem simple or even silly, but you never know how your words can heal over the ones that hurt.

gayinnj:

Jamey Rodemyer, 14, Committed Suicide in Response to Incessant Tormentors

Jamey had been bullied for years in school and online for not only his sexual orientation but also his weight and hateful speech of all kinds was sent his way. In May he came out to his friends as bisexual, and even made his own “It Gets Better” video to spread the message of hope he desperately wanted to believe in himself. But it seems that the hateful words only increased to an unbearable point, and feeling he had no one to turn to, on Sunday September 18th, only days before the anniversary of Tyler Clementi’s death last year, Jamey killed himself outside his home in Williamsville, NY.

You might have heard the news that Jamey was a huge Lady Gaga fan, even claiming that she was “the reason why I am alive.” The news of his death has left Gaga and people across the world both saddened and angry. Gaga is now pushing for President Obama to “make bullying illegal”, and the Paws Up Forever Project is circulating on YouTube to honor Jamey by discussing the harsh reality of suicide and the horrible bullying that has lead to so many lately.

So what can you do? Keep reaching out to the quiet kid in your class or dorm. Keep telling the ones you love that you are there for them and that they are amazing and beautiful. It might seem simple or even silly, but you never know how your words can heal over the ones that hurt.

Winds of Change: The Daughters of Bilitis and Lesbian Organizing ⇢

"Frustrated with their inability to meet other lesbians, Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon accepted an invitation to get together with three other female couples in San Francisco in September, 1955. The eight lesbians who gathered that Friday night at Noni and Mary’s hoped there would be other women in the Bay area who would want to enjoy parties and conversation in the privacy of one another’s homes. Out of their discussions grew the Daughters of Bilitis (DOB), the first national lesbian organization in the U.S. While DOB started as a small, secret social club, by the early 1960s there were chapters in Chicago, Los Angeles, and New York, as well as San Francisco, and a well-regarded monthly magazine by and for lesbians, The Ladder. Through dances and debates, advocacy and research, conferences and correspondence, the Daughters helped build a significant 20th-century movement for social change.

Out of their discussions grew the Daughters of Bilitis (DOB), the first national lesbian organization in the U.S. While DOB started as a small, secret social club, by the early 1960s there were chapters in Chicago, Los Angeles, and New York, as well as San Francisco, and a well-regarded monthly magazine by and for lesbians, The Ladder. Through dances and debates, advocacy and research, conferences and correspondence, the Daughters helped build a significant 20th century movement for social change.”

Source: gerberhart.org

A Uniquely Indian Perspective On Gay Marriage ⇢

The other day I watched two friends, both Indian, get married in a beautiful garden in Santa Cruz. One is Christian, the other Hindu, so they had two ceremonies. There was a three-tiered wedding cake and a sacred fire. But the really amazing part of the ceremony was that one of their fathers had flown in from India to bless them. It was amazing because my friends are both men.

And watching them touch the father’s feet during their unofficial ceremony, I realized that the fight over gay marriage is ending. Coming out in India is really about marriage. In fact, the standard coming-out line is, “Mom, Dad, I don’t think I am going to get married.”

For my immigrant friends, being gay in California is not much of an issue. Being unmarried in their 30s and 40s is the conversation-stopper at Indian potlucks.

One friend said that when an unmarried Chinese friend told his parents that at least he wasn’t gay, they retorted, “We’d rather you were gay with kids.”

When I left India for America, my aunts worried about who I might end up marrying. “I hope it’s another Bengali,” one told me. Over the years, that relaxed to, “I hope she’s a Hindu.” Then it became, “At least another Indian,” until finally we reached, “I hope you’ll get married before we all die.”

The pressure for marriage leads to acts of desperation. I’ve seen ads for marriages of convenience:

"A 29-year-old professional Indian, gay, 5-foot-9, good job, looking for Indian lesbian facing similar family pressures."

So at my friends’ wedding in Santa Cruz, I got a lump in my throat. Not when they said their vows, or when the minister pronounced them spouses for life. I teared up when the father blessed them both.

And I remembered that old coming-out line: “Mom, Dad, I am not going to get married.” The next generation of immigrant gays and lesbians might have to come up with some other coming-out line.

In fact, I can imagine this ad in the local Indian weekly:

"Hindu very well-established Los Angeles family invites professional match for daughter, 25, 5-foot-3, slim, fair complexion, U.S. born, senior executive in Fortune 500 company. Loves music and dancing. Prospective lesbians encouraged to reply in confidence with complete bio data and returnable photo. Must be professional, under 30, caste no bar."

It might just be time for the gay arranged marriage.

(via NPR)

NPR

GOP Reps Urge Countries That Criminalize Homosexuality To Oppose LGBT Rights NGO ⇢

"two Republicans, Reps. Chris Smith (NJ) and Trent Franks (AZ), have written a letter, obtained by TPMmuckraker, to the many of the other countries on the council urging them to vote against the resolution.

They claim that the LGBT rights group is a threat to human rights, including freedom of religion.

"Serious questions regarding the IGLHRC’s support for the internationally recognized rights to freedom of religion and freedom of expression remain outstanding in the NGO Committee. Consequently, a forced, premature action by the [council] to approve the IGLHRC would potentially undermine these important rights," they wrote.

Smith is the Republican congressional representative to the U.N. and Franks leads an international religious freedom caucus in the House.”

We already have US evangelical churches backing and adding fuel to the fire in Uganda, do we really ready to have these Reps publicly declaring that LGBT groups are a threat to human rights!?!  It remains amazing to me how much cognitive dissonance exists in the world to allow to people to claim that their rights would be infringed upon if you provided equal rights to all.  Last time I check, the ability to hate on someone that does not live and believe exactly as you do was not a human right.

I hope New Jersey and Arizona unelect these fools!

Source: tpmmuckraker.talkingpointsmemo.com

This is an amazing photo and I totally agree with the comment at Bilerico.
"Fabulous vintage photo, ca.1910 - 1920. I have no idea who these lovely  women are or where they were performing but I sure wish I could have  watched their show!"
via www.bilerico.com

This is an amazing photo and I totally agree with the comment at Bilerico.

"Fabulous vintage photo, ca.1910 - 1920. I have no idea who these lovely women are or where they were performing but I sure wish I could have watched their show!"

via www.bilerico.com

Source: bilerico.com

Study: Gays use social networking sites and blogs more | News Story on 365gay.com ⇢

Harris concluded that 54% of gay and lesbian respondents read blogs, compared to 40% of heterosexuals.
The study also found that gays and lesbians are bigger users of social networking sites, with 73% of respondents on Facebook, and 29% on Twitter. That compares to 65% of heterosexuals on Facebook and only 15% on Twitter.
When Harris broke down blog readership by content type, gay and lesbian readers outnumbered heterosexual readers in every category, from travel blogs to political blogs. Gay and lesbian blogs are read by 35% of the community, the study found.

No surprise based on the number of blogs I read and the number that are just on Tumblr.  But interesting because the study does not make any call on why usage would be higher, but it seems obvious to me that its because online people can be themselves in a way that they may not be able to be in their everyday life.

what do you think?

Source: 365gay.com

An amazing piece of photographic history from the first march.
Christopher Street Gay Liberation Day - June 28, 1970  (by Gay Freedom Day)

An amazing piece of photographic history from the first march.

Christopher Street Gay Liberation Day - June 28, 1970  (by Gay Freedom Day)

Source: flickr.com

Instructor of Catholicism at Univ. of Illinois claims loss of job violates academic freedom ⇢

"One of his lectures in the introductory class on Catholicism focuses on the application of natural law theory to a social issue. In early May, Howell wrote a lengthy e-mail to his students, in preparation for an exam, in which he discusses how the theory of utilitarianism and natural law theory would judge the morality of homosexual acts.

"Natural Moral Law says that Morality must be a response to REALITY," he wrote in the e-mail, obtained by The News-Gazette. "In other words, sexual acts are only appropriate for people who are complementary, not the same."

He went on to write there has been a disassociation of sexual activity from morality and procreation, in contradiction of Natural Moral Theory.

The student complaint came in a May 13 e-mail to Robert McKim, head of the religion department. The author of the e-mail said he was writing on behalf of a friend – a student in Howell’s class, who wanted to remain anonymous. The e-mail complained about Howell’s statements about homosexuality, which the student called “hate speech.”

"Teaching a student about the tenets of a religion is one thing," the student wrote in the e-mail. "Declaring that homosexual acts violate the natural laws of man is another. The courses at this institution should be geared to contribute to the public discourse and promote independent thought; not limit one’s worldview and ostracize people of a certain sexual orientation."

Howell said he was presenting the idea that the Catholic moral teachings are based on natural moral law, and the Catholic understanding of what that means.”

Read the whole article at The News-Gazette

Right-wingers are going to be up in arms about this claiming impingement of freedom of speech, but this decision was excellent on the part of the university. Professors always need to be careful to teach and challenge students, but not overstep the line into dictating their own thoughts which leads to curtaining the thoughts/speech of their students. This professor crossed that line.

Source: news-gazette.com

The gAyTM debate - the Obama Admin and Congress make the choice obvious ⇢

There was a grand debate over at Pam’s House Blend (also HuffPo and Bilerico) about the whether LGBT people should be open to donating to the Democratic National Committee (DNC). 

I agree with Pam and many others that the gAyTM should be closed to the DNC with a refocusing of efforts for LGBT donors to directly support candidates that openly support LGBT constituents.  The DNC and Obama have thrown us under the bus for long enough and its time to provide direct and real support only to those that will be the quote “fearless advocate” they promise.

Want to read the whole debate?  Check out these articles in order that they appeared over the weekend.

  1. Don’t Close the gAyTM (Joe Mirabella)
  2. I’m glad Joe Mirabella posted the diary “Don’t close the gAyTM” (Lurleen)
  3. The gAyTM debate - the Obama Admin and Congress make the choice obvious (Pam)
  4. Message heard: “The gAyTM is closed.” So what now? (Joe Mirabella)
  5. Closing The gAyTM Is About What We Won’t Do; So What Do We Do To Create LGBT Civil Rights Tension? (Autumn)

Source: pamshouseblend.com

How Marriage Bans Teach Children Marriage Isn’t Necessary ⇢

"The danger isn’t just to the millions of children with lesbian or gay parents. If their friends and classmates see that same-sex couples are raising happy and healthy children without marriage (as valid academic studies continue to show), they, too, may begin to wonder if marriage is even needed for successful child rearing.

This argument also answers the question of why domestic partnerships or civil unions won’t do. They provide some or all of the rights and benefits of marriage, but they will not—by definition—show children what it means to be “married.” Instead, they will convey that an alternative is acceptable.

This is not to say that everyone will or should regard marriage as necessary. That is a personal choice faced by each person. The sweeping exclusion of same-sex couples from marriage, however, takes it away from the realm of personal choice and makes the statement that it isn’t necessary for an entire group of people. That, as I see it, is far more damaging to the institution.”

(via Mombian)

Source: mombian.com

Constance McMillen's suit over the prom is winning over the South. ⇢

"Constance herself is the kind of young woman a state entirely mired in bigotry can’t produce. Though she doesn’t belong to a church, McMillen describes herself as an "open-minded Christian" and a strong believer in monogamy, which she expresses in a distinctly evangelical way. "Actually, I have a promise ring from my girlfriend, and I’m pretty sure that within the next year she’s going to propose. Of course, we wouldn’t get married until she’s 18." One male student once asked McMillen’s girlfriend, "How can you be redneck and gay at the same time?" which seems tantamount to proof that the woman in front of him had that figured out. McMillen would like to live in Los Angeles when she gets older, but that is due in part to many, many hours spent watching the L Word. Her girlfriend says she doesn’t want to come because she can’t hunt there.”

Slate

Click over to eatingandsleeping to watch because this is some BRILLIANT classic Daily Show!!!

eatingandsleeping:

“Why take time to do the research when saying it is so much faster?”

Classic 2008 Ed Helms “showing how twisted Massachusetts has become since they legalized gay marriage”

(via rosietherioter, safetynetsentwined)

(via rosietherioter, safetynetsentwined)

Kitty Lambert attempts to apply for a marriage license with her longtime same-sex partner, is denied, pulls a random (male) stranger out of the crowd and is granted a marriage license on the spot. An inspiring bit of activism.

Kitty Lambert’s Wedding (via pinkBFLO)

Source: youtube.com

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